Why is the behavior of Milanese men toward women so natural and sophisticated?

It is often said around the world that “Italian men are passionate and good with women,” but having actually lived in Milan, I realize that there is nothing more instructive than the way they treat their women. The way they treat women makes you want to exclaim, “Perfetto! I am so impressed with their behavior that I want to exclaim, “Perfetto!

As a man, I feel that way, so I guess Japanese women visiting Italy must feel even more so. “Why do they treat women so well? “Can Japanese men really treat women the same way they do? I have been observing the Milanese men while pondering such questions as “Why are they so good at treating women so well? As a result of my continued observation, I have concluded that this is something that anyone can do, not only Milanese men (regardless of nationality or race). Let me introduce the essence of what I have learned from Milanese men.

What does ” amore ” really mean, as discussed by Yuto Nagatomo?

It may seem abrupt, but how would you answer the question, “What are the three most important elements of Italian culture?” What would you say if you were asked, “What are the three major elements of Italian culture? Amore, Mangiare, and Cantare” would be an exemplary answer. These words mean ” to love, to eat, and to sing. These are customs that are a natural part of the daily lives of Italians. One of them is ” Amore. Recently, the word “Amore” has become a hot topic in Japan because of the use of the word by Japanese national team soccer player Nagatomo, but I regret to say that I think the way “Amore” is perceived and treated in Japan is a bit crude.

This is because the word “Amore” contains a hint that reveals “the wonderful way Italian men treat women. Amore” is actually a very common word in everyday life in Italy. For example, a husband might say to his wife, ” Amore, can you get the keys? (amore)” is a very common expression in Italian daily life. Amore” is used by wives to greet their husbands when they return home from work, and by parents to scold their children, “Amore, what have you done? Amore” is used by parents to scold their children, “Amore, what have you done! Amore” actually means “my beloved,” and is commonly used by married couples, lovers, and parents toward their children.

In other words, there is a custom to express “I love and cherish those close to me” in daily life. Now, if you say, “Japan does not have such a culture,” that is the end of the story. The way they treat each other goes beyond culture and teaches us about the important bonds between people.

In fact, there is a surprising scene here in Milan. It is the sight of an adolescent daughter walking arm in arm with her father. This is not a special scene by any means; it is a common sight everywhere in the city. In Japan, on the other hand, such a scene is rarely seen, and if it is, it must be extremely rare. What does this tell us? In my opinion, it “tells us the importance of strengthening family ties and bonds between people by shortening the distance between them and their loved ones through words and by sharing a lot of time together. Expressing affection is normal and natural for Italian men, as they have received abundant expressions of affection since childhood. In fact, it is something they cannot help but do. Also, of course, Italian women have been accustomed to receiving expressions of affection from a young age. They are not attracted to a man who says a few kind and thoughtful words to them. Faced with such a high hurdle, Italian men are always thinking of ways to express their affection that will resonate with women, and they do it. This may be the reason why Italian men are said to be ” passionate.

Incidentally, I have been married for 12 years, and now I try to say ” I love you ” to my wife. At first there was some resistance, but when I put it into practice, I realize that the distance between husband and wife becomes shorter and the result is wonderful as a couple should be. Japanese readers, have you said “I love you” to your wife, girlfriend, or child recently? For Italian men, this may be the first step in learning how to treat women.

The Milanese way is to treat even fierce women as “weak beings to be protected.

I asked her, “How do Italian men treat women?” Both of them answered, “Italian men see women as protectors. One of them answered, “Italian women are very strong, but Italian men see even such women as someone to protect! I laughed at this answer. I laughed at his answer, because it was so spot on.

This reminded me of a scene I encountered the other day. Two young women of about the same age were arguing loudly about how to parallel park their car. They were shouting abuse at each other on a main street where buses come and go, right in front of a beautiful restaurant. In Japan, it would be unthinkable for two women to shout abuse at each other on the street. I, who rarely see such a scene, couldn’t help but watch the scene from a little distance. Then I heard “Via! Via! （Via! Go away!) (Go away! Go away!), and this time he started yelling at me. I thought to myself, “Italian women are strong! I thought to myself, “Italian women are strong! It is true that Italian men escort such strong women gently and carefully. In other words, women are women. It does not matter what age, nationality, race, or appearance they have, not to mention their personality. Naturally, they are kind to middle-aged and elderly women. Of course, there is a more special way to treat women who are in love with them, but basically, they try to treat women like weak vessels, whether they are in love with them or not.

What is “Prima donna” in Italy?

In Italy, ” Prima donna ” (Prima donna) is a common practice. It means “ladies first. The idea that men should sacrifice themselves for women at all times is commonplace and pervasive. Men come first. There is no concept of male dominance. For example, men basically pay for everything at restaurants. Women are not allowed to pay. When I first started living in Milan, my wife and I were having coffee at a bar. When my wife was about to pay at the cash register from our wallet, the clerk at the bar said to her, “Hey, hey, why is the woman paying? You have to pay.” Even though I explained to the waiter, “No, this is my wallet,” he said, “No, you can’t make a woman pay! He said, “No, you can’t make a woman pay! Later, when I observed the checkout, I found that all the men who bring women pay. If you think that because you are a married couple, there is no problem if the woman pays, you are mistaken.

Based on that lesson, when I go to a Bar with my wife, I make sure that the author pays. At all times, men act for women. As a matter of course. This is what Italian Uomo and Milanese men know. Therefore, the idea of “splitting the bill,” which is becoming common among young Japanese men and women, is ” impossible” for them.

The Milanese way is for elders to take the lead in setting an example of what a “good man” should be.

Interestingly, I have noticed that Milanese men, both young and old, are very sophisticated in the way they treat women. The other day, when I was riding the subway, an elderly man was sitting in a seat. Then an elderly woman got on the train from a certain station. The elderly man immediately gave up his seat to the woman. He did so casually. I couldn’t help but give a thumbs up to the man and say, ” That’s great! I gave him a thumbs-up and a good sign. The elderly man simply winked back at me. The way he gave it to him, his mannerisms, and the casual way he said that he had done what he deserved to do. And he returned with a wink. For me, it was a powerful experience that made me think, “I want to be this kind of man.

This kind of gentle treatment by older men toward women can be seen everywhere in the city. In other words, older men are setting an example for younger men in public places. When I told my Italian male friend about this incident, he told me something interesting. He said, ” Italy is a Catholic culture, that is, a Christian culture. So they do to others what they would like them to do to them, which is also the teaching of Christianity. Japan, on the other hand, is a Buddhist culture. We act in a way that doesn’t bother others. That’s the difference.” He said. I see. That is an interesting point of view.

What are the points we Japanese men can learn from Italian men?

Italian men actively act for the benefit of those around them. It is ingrained in them to act for the benefit of others, regardless of whether they are women or men. The important thing is to look at the other person carefully and reflectively do what you can do at the moment. And through the accumulation of this experience, they are able to perform in any situation in a manner that is pleasing to both men and women alike. This naturally leads to a natural way of treating women. This is a point that applies regardless of nationality or environment.

Think about what you can do to make the people around you happy. and act accordingly. At first, your actions may be misguided. However, this failure will lead to the next success. This is because Japanese people have the wonderful characteristic of ” thinking. If you think about how to make the most of your failure, you will be closer to success. If you succeed, it will lead to ” confidence. And if you do it enough times, it will turn into ” confidence. It is a matter of being interested in the people around you, and expressing what pleases you in a tangible way. This is the foundation that makes Italian men and Milanese men’s attitude toward women so perfect that it is hard not to fall in love with them.

This time, I focused on the good points of Italian men, but in fact, Japanese men are just as attractive as Italian men. So, the theme for the next issue will be ” The Attractiveness of Japanese Men Seen Only Because I Live in Italy. Stay tuned!